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24 Apr 2007, 3:59 pm / Happy

Has anyone ever got this feeing that no matter what you do or say, it seems to fall on deaf ears? I have encountered that feeling way too many times before. I have made it a point to speak loudly, but I listen intentally. I'm a real go-getter, but I also know when to step back and take a deep breath.

I have a best friend that's a lesbian. I like people for who they are, not because of their orientation or background. Being open minded has it's downfalls. Most of the time, people see me as being a little uptight. *shrugs* I think that happens with all of us at some point in time.

I'm just airing out my thoughts here, and I don't want to give people the wrong idea. I may be an anime fan, but that doesn't mean that I'm a simple minded baffoon either. This is a place for fans, and being a fan of anime is something I enjoy.

I got angry at my neighbor the other day. I'm a little hot tempered at times, but that's what being an Aries is. I didn't out right tell him that he's being a butthead, even though I wanted to. He bashed one of my friends right in front of me and I told him to keep his thoughts to himself. He's a bigot, pure and simple. I had one of my trasnvestite friends over and my neighbor was bashing the GBLT community!! I was so uphauled that I wanted to toss him out by his boxer shorts!! I held my tongue because of my daughter.

I have taught her that people should be respected for who they are and the deeds they do. Greatness comes from within no matter what the color of skin is, or if anyone is gay, straight or both.

My personal oppinion on the GBLT is that most of them are the main contributors to society. They are creative, inventive, outgoing, honest, dilligent, intelligent, and the list goes on. I had a lesbian couple living several door down from us and we loved to go over to their home. I loved talking to the couple, mainly because they were just a great couple of gals. I miss them a lot. They ended up moving away because they were chased off by the bigots and that saddened me.

I can remember a time I was a bouncer at a GBLT club known as Missy B's here in Kansas City. It was on Westport Road and it was a great place. That was over 5 years ago. I wished that people would just get off their high horses and see what a great bunch of people that we have here. It's not often that I say this, but hey, it's a free world on the net.

I tell my daughter all the time that no matter who they are, you should always remember that each person that you meet in life will influence your future. I'd like to think of meeting new people as a path. Some will lead you down the wrong way, while others may lead to something spectacular. Each person leaves a footstep to follow. What path you choose to make, will decide whether or not if it's good or bad. I would like to think that it's all good, but that's not how life truely is. Sometimes life causes people to look the other way, while others embrace it.

Which one would you choose?

My Comments

From: Spellbound
03 May 2007, 6:24 pm I applaude you and completly agree with everything you've said. I think society, both in the Us and the UK as well as many other countries find it easier to take things and people on face value. I admit that to some extent I do it, I think as a race we're conditioned to form an opinion on someone immediately. I've actually had people cross the road, staring at me like some mutant freak because of my facial piercings and crazy hair, that's their judgement and to be honest, if they cant take the time to find out that I'm not going to rip their heads off and eat cornflakes out of their skulls, then Im not to lose too much sleep over them, although it is sad to think that their children will grow up with the same attitudes. Although on the other hand, I can see why a lot of people don't ask you questions if you look different through choice. Given the amount of violence in the world and the amount of people attacked, shot and stabbed just for looking at others, then I see their side of it too. ALthough judging folks purely on the basis of something they have no control of, ie gender, race, sexuality, thats ridiculous. Theres no need for it and if the bigots and racists/homophobes took a moment to realise that neither is contagious, they may find that they could gain some amazing friends! Standing/living next to gay folks makes you no more gay, than standing in a garage makes you a car.

From: silverfoxninja
26 Apr 2007, 7:26 pm Oh man. Nothing's worse than getting caught between two sides. I know that feeling all too well. There are times that some of the people here are pretty closed minded about others that aren't like them. I do my best to stray away from the sterotypes. I look at things at face value at first, then when time goes on, I either look deeper into what's said and done and usually they fall into place. Meaning, that the judgementalism no longer surfaces. I try my best tp give people the benefit of the doubt. It's easier said than done. I bet that your list goes on. It's sad really when one person looks at another and thinks that just because they like to wear balck in the spring time, doesn't make them a baby killer. People have reasons to do what they do. We are never going to know exactly what another goes through unless we have been there ourselves. Just because a young girl has to go through an abortion, doesn't necessarily make her evil or a slut. We will never know unless we take the time to find out with a gentle hand what lies beneath the surface. Society and the masses of acceptance have driven us to do many things that are concidered acceptable, just because the masses are doing it. I find that to be more of a herding mentality rather than individualism. I hope that someday, our future generations will help humanity lift the veil of ignorance and let us live our lives the best we can.

From: Ringmaster
26 Apr 2007, 7:00 pm You know what is so cool? That you live in a "red state". I fall into the polarizing of red v. blue due to frustrations with the whole political situation, but when I read something like this, it reminds me to not fall into that trap of stereotyping based on trivial things like mailing address. It's as bad as judging by skin color, sexual orientation, religion...